THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE QUANDARY

Not too way back the blogosphere was up in arms about an incident that occurred between Keke Palmer and her then-boyfriend, Darius Jackson. Mainly, Keke attended an Usher live performance whereas carrying an outfit he thought-about inappropriate.

As typically occurs with Usher’s concert events, Keke was welcomed on stage and danced seductively with the seasoned entertainer. Although individuals say that she was “grinding” on him, no such factor occurred. Their “components” by no means got here collectively, and when the music ended, they separated with out additional contact.

Keke’s boyfriend, Darius Jackson, had a match! He busted her out on social media for carrying the revealing outfit and tried to publicly disgrace her for habits he felt was unbefitting a “mom.” She had beforehand given start to a baby with Darius.

Apparently, there have been lots of people who noticed by his antics, and didn’t perceive why he needed to wait till she was within the public eye to disgrace her. Why hadn’t he mentioned one thing about what she was carrying earlier than she left dwelling?

Due to Darius’ resolution to publicly try and disgrace Keke, there have been girls who expressed the thought that one thing deeper was occurring between the couple. They noticed his actions as domineering and controlling, exhibiting a particular “crimson flag.” After some time, nonetheless, issues died down, and Keke was later seen celebrating her birthday with Darius.

Lately, the “match hit the proverbial shan” once more, when it was revealed that Keke took out a restraining order on Darius as a result of allegations that he had been abusing her, each mentally and bodily. Furthermore, she requested full custody of their son Leodis, claiming she feared for his life.

She was granted the restraining order and short-term custody, based mostly on precise proof offered from her dwelling’s safety cameras. It was evident that Darius broke into her dwelling (they weren’t dwelling collectively) knocked her down, took her cellphone, threw her automobile keys into the bushes and smashed her prescription eyeglasses, amongst different issues.

On one other event, she had video and photographic proof that he attacked her earlier to that point. The scenario was so dangerous that Keke’s mother, Sharon Palmer, broke character to answer a textual content that Darius’ brother wrote, which seemingly forged a really adverse mild on Keke.

The mom was outraged, and talked about how she instructed the brother (Sarunas) concerning the abuse through the earlier yr, and that he mentioned, in so many phrases, he “was like that.” He later retracted his textual content and denied making that admission.

Most people who find themselves conscious of Keke Palmer say that she has been one superstar who has managed to keep away from public drama till the present scenario. Despite this, nonetheless, many, MANY observers, each males AND girls, are wanting on the scenario with jaundiced notion. They’re blaming the sufferer.

Some mentioned there isn’t any “proof” that she skilled what she mentioned she did. Plenty of the boys, particularly, don’t consider her, and once they do, they typically say that males expertise home violence too; that there are two sides to any story; and that Keke isn’t “good.” They don’t seem to be happy with the nonetheless images of the abuse and need to see the movies!

It has lengthy been identified that a whole lot of girls are usually not believed once they expertise home abuse, and folks have a tendency to put blame on them for not leaving the abuser. In Keke’s case, not solely did she depart, however she took her proof to courtroom. A trial is scheduled for the close to future. However lots of people are nonetheless reluctant to consider her aspect of the story even with the visible proof.

Herein lies a quandary. If individuals proceed guilty girls for his or her abuse or deny that it has taken place, our group will proceed to spiral right into a cesspool of dysfunction. This blame-the-victim mentality has received to cease, as a result of the entire household and group undergo when it’s allowed to proceed! Home Violence victims are “darned in the event that they do and darned in the event that they don’t!” A Luta Continua.